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Get Your Ex Back - 3+1 Things You Need To Know

Friday, September 18th, 2009

I understand you are more than likely in bits at the moment. Being dumped all of a sudden is a hard pill to swallow. Maybe you still feel something and want to get your ex back?

Most people on finding out they are single again will readily accept it and try to move on. If your relationship was more than a few months then chances are there was love there, so why should you accept being dumped? Getting your ex back is a choice. It’s one you can make if you want to and the following few tips might help you make that choice.

1 - Does over mean over?

This depends, if the relationship was ok and there were no special circumstances like violence or abuse. Then there’s no reason why you shouldn’t decide to give it another go. Often times people accept things when they needn’t. You have every right to try and get your ex back. Real love doesn’t die over night.

2 - What’s my next move?

This is a great time to give yourself a time out and get your emotions under control. Being emotionally volatile could easily ruin you whole chance of getting back together. Your ex will realise that you are mature enough to handle the break up. They will probably expect some pestering and begging but you not doing so puts you in a better position when you do start your plan to win them back.

3 - What’s the plan, man?

You probably don’t have a plan right now and there are two roads you can travel here. Make your own plan up, or use a plan that has been used successfully in the past. OK, so you are maybe thing how do you take a leaf out of someone else’s book? Many people have written many things on this subject and we can borrow their expert knowledge.

4 - Where can I get that plan?

All the information you need is available for free, somewhere on the internet. Your problem lies in finding it all and sorting the wheat from the chaff. And there’s a lot of chaff, let me tell you. Or you can take a short cut and buy a ready made step by step system with everything you need laid out in easy steps.

If I had to choose I’d be taking the easiest way as time is important here. If your ex dumped you then you can bet they are looking to move on. This is where you can step back in and make them see the error of their ways. If your desire is to get your ex back then you have to move before they find their next partner.

If you desire to know how to get back together using a step by step system, check out this website…

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… Getting back together should be your choice, not left to fate.

Get My Wife Back - Number One Thing To Avoid First

Wednesday, September 16th, 2009

If you have just broke up, and it doesn’t really matter who left who. Maybe you’ve decided that you want to “get my wife back“. That’s great but in the mean time you can’t let yourself fall into depression.

It’s not that hard to fall into a depression. It’s not easy battling you way out of a depression. If you see yourself falling for any of these ’symptoms’ you need to do something about it. Otherwise you may harm your chances of getting her back.

Sleeping through the day.

This is the last thing you need to do. It will screw up your daily routine more than anything. If you do find yourself sleeping a lot through the day. You’ll really find it hard to break this nasty habit.

Not going out.

I mean when your family or your friends ask you to go out you refuse. It gets easier to say no the more times you don’t go out. How will you manage the date with your ex when it comes around if you are struggling to go out?

Drinking heavily.

This one goes without saying, but we’ll say it anyway. Obviously there are long term dangers, but it’s the short term dangers that can cause problems. Calling or texting while drunk are tactics that will kill any chance you have of getting her back.

Laying your problems on anyone who’ll listen.

Unless people are really close to you like family, I find they generally don’t give a stuff about you or your problems. That’s a stark reality I know, but it’s true. Sure they might listen…once. Then they will avoid you like the plague. You will lose friends quicker by telling them over and over, than any other way possible.

Life changing decisions.

This one is pretty much a safety valve as you are in no fit state to make a life changing decision. You may think you are in total control, chances are you aren’t. Making a rash decision to give up your job or even to move home (or city) will doubtless come back to haunt you later on.

Time off work.

This is a biggie. At this time in your life you need to be able to function and pay your bills. Losing your job because of stupid days off is not smart. No job means no chance of getting back together.

So you now know what signs to look out for to avoid falling into a depression. It’s not a nice thing to be going through now, and it won’t be easy getting through it. But there are recognised techniques that can speed you through this if you are willing to pull yourself together and work on how to “get my wife back”.

To discover some super techniques that will not only allow you to get over this hurtingperiod, they will hold your hand every step of the way to getting your wife back, click the following link– Get Your Ex Wife Back

Get Your Ex Back - Avoid These 5 Things Like The Plague

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

If you’ve recently split and decided being single is not all it’s cracked up to be. You need to avoid any of these things if you desire to get your ex back. Many people kill any chance they have of getting back together by doing one or more of the following.

1 - Telling lies to others about your ex

You will ruin any chance you have of getting together again with this one. If they were spreading lies about you, how would you feel about that? I know I would be gutted. If my ex were telling lies about me then that would be the end of it, for good.

2 - Getting your ex to be a bit jealous

This tactic can work if you know what you are doing and when to use it. But jumping straight in after a breakup and trying to make them jealous will just make them feel all the more distant from you. This can backfire big time. The jealousy you are looking for may turn to revulsion and they then know it’s over for good.

3 - Behaving like a stalker

We shouldn’t even have to say anything about stalking but just in case we do. Best case scenario, you look like a sad desperate lonely person, they now realise breaking up was a good move. Worst case scenario you can get your self into trouble with the law, possibly even a jail sentence. Imagine what that’d do to your chances.

4 - Getting revenge on your ex

If you are even thinking of extracting any sort of revenge on your ex, you gotta ask yourself if you really want to get back together. If you are prepared to do the dirty on them in any way at all you can’t really love them as much as you think. If you love someone you won’t hurt them, period.

5 - Text pest

Being a text pest is nearly as bad as being a stalker. You could seriously drive your ex round the bend with this text torture. The last thing you want is to be seen as a text pest. What if they were to change their number instead of just ignoring you? If they do that there’s a good chance you lost them for good.

You now know a few things to avoid doing if you have desires to get your ex back. Some things will increase the odds in your favour but they aren’t them, so avoid them.

Take a bit of advice and spend some time getting yourself in the right frame of mind to move forward with your plan. Get your head in shape and you have a far better chance of getting your ex back.

When I split & wanted to get my wife back I turned to a step by step system that was so easy to follow a child could have done it.

Getting your ex back is a choice, not a chance.

Here’s How To Get Your Ex Back In Your Life

Sunday, August 30th, 2009

If you want to know how to win her back more than anything else at the moment, I may be able to help you out. It doesn’t matter who broke up with who, I don’t know the ins and outs of your split. I do know how to get a girl back though. A while back my wife dumped me so I’m pretty familiar how heart wrenching it can be.

My whole life was eaten up by the fact that we’d broke up. I thought things were great so it came as one heck of a shock to me. I think that’s one of our big weaknesses. We get in a comfort zone in a relationship and we start to think things are going along smoothly.

When my ex ran off and I wanted to get my wife back I was lost, didn’t have the first clue. I was doing all the stuff you are probably doing now. Mooching around the net looking for information. There was lots of places with little nuggets of advice, but never the full answer.

I wasn’t stupid enough to think I could win her back overnight with a magic trick or something. But I was looking for info that I could piece together and come up with a game plan. All the time I’m sweating that she could have already gone off into the sunset with a new guy.

I ended up on a site selling an ebook about making up and all the magic surrounding it. Yeah right! I thought who cares? May as well give it a try. I had nothing else to lose and maybe a lot to gain.

I didn’t really know what to expect but I certainly wasn’t expecting a section on psychological mind games. Oh boy was I gonna lay some psycho babble mumbo jumbo on my ex. It actually turned out the psychological tactics were so subtle she never had a clue. It certainly wasn’t the deep hypnosis stuff I was worried it could have been.

Although the mind games were subtle, they were very powerful. Much better than I expected. I used the detailed instructions the system gave me to get in contact with my ex wife again. We agreed to meet up for a coffee and from then on, sticking to the system rules, it seemed I was in total control.

I was steering every date we had. My ex did not know this and to this day, still doesn’t realise I was (and still am) doing it. I know that if we ever break up again I have the ammunition to get my ex back if I want to.

If you want to win her back you have two roads you can go down. Carry on aimlessly trying different things while all the while there’s every chance she will be gone for ever. Usually with some smarmy guy on her arm. Alternatively you can make it happen for yourself, learn how to win her back and then keep her.

A Couple Tips & Tricks That May Help To Get Your Boyfriend Back

Monday, August 24th, 2009

I’ll get straight to the point; you’re hoping to get your boyfriend back. Let’s hope you don’t mean getting your own back, but actually getting him back with you. Even if he’s been a particular prick, I don’t think you should stoop as low as him and try to get revenge. If you want revenge, date a smoking hot guy and make sure your boyfriend finds out. That’ll do the job nicely.

If your plan is to get back together, you are going to need to understand a few things. I can tell you it’s not going to happen without you making it happen. I know you’re probably asking how do I make it happen. There are some crafty methods!

You can look at it as a competition and you need to learn how to win him back. Hopefully I can point you in that direction. It’s important not to crawl back to him pleading and begging. Him viewing you as immature and needy won’t score you any points. Have no contact at all with him for a few weeks. You can get yourself in his thoughts by not being in his face.

He can’t help being curious about your absence. When most guys break up with a girl they expect her to come crawling & begging. Your ex will expect you to crawl back pleading. If he’s as vain as most men he will want you to plead with him. It satisfies a guy’s ego having girls begging after him. Take the ignoring him bit a stage further and go out and enjoy yourself, making sure he finds out about it.

That move will just drive him mad with curiosity and a little bit of jealousy. He may have dumped you but if he thinks you are getting over him and moving on, well this will just eat at him more and more. In his twisted view of the world you should spend 6 months getting over the breakup. Yeah right!

Back to the plan at hand, your plan to get your boyfriend back. They are systems and methods for sale on the net that will (they claim) help you to win him back. Difficult to believe I know, but hey! We live in a weird world.

I broke up and was so wrecked that thought I’d give one of these a go. Had nothing else to lose right? I didn’t hold much hope for it. I expected it to be rubbish. I’m still amazed that it only took me a couple months to get my ex back with the system.

I used the (bonus) psychological methods almost all the time to control how everything played out. You can use these tactics to have your ex boyfriend literally eating out of your hand in no time at all.

You’re going to have to try something to get your boyfriend back so why not give these killer tactics a go? You’ve got everything to gain, including an ex boyfriend!

To Get My Ex Wife Back There Are 4 Things That Need To Be Understood

Saturday, August 8th, 2009

If you are going through a break up right now and want to get her back, there’ are a few things you should understand. I’ll split the things into 4 to make it easier to understand. They are…1) Understand what’s going on.  2) Get you head together.  3) Assess the situation.  4) Work the plan.

1) Understand what’s going on. Just what is going on here? Well, on the surface you’ve split for whatever reason. Underneath the surface there could be a hundred different reasons why you aren’t together. Strangely though it usually boils down to one or two reasons.

If you broke up with her and not the other way round it should be easier to repair the damage. If it was her who broke up with you then you need to work out what it was that caused the split. If it’s not clearly obvious like cheating I mean. If you can find out why she dumped you, you can increase your chances of getting back with her by loads.

2) Get your head together. You need to get you head together before you try any moves towards getting her back. This is so important. Losing control after you’ve made a bit of progress will kill any chances of getting back together.

This one reason alone is why you must take the time to get your emotional self under control. Getting you emotions in check means you control any contact with your ex. You should score a few points as she will note how adult and under control you are these days. If she sees you as emotionally unstable you can score minus points. That’s something you really don’t need.

3) Assess the situation You can assess the situation now because you know what’s happening. You have your emotions under full control. It’s time to take a wider view of things and work out how to reverse the situation.

This is where you need a solid plan of action. Something you can follow step by step and know you should get the result you want. You can get these systems on the net. They will (they claim) hold your hand all the way. When I broke up and wanted to get my wife back I turned to just such a system.

To be frank I simply didn’t believe the claims. Do this do that and end up getting my wife back. Pull the other one! I didn’t think people could be manipulated with a handful of instructions in some eBook. I was quite wrong. I realised that we seem to follow the same rules, and mostly on an unconscious level.

It’s reasons like these that “get back together” methods seem to work well. I paid forty bucks for the one I used. I’ve reviewed it on my site, and I can recommend it as it did the job for me. If you decide to make the job easier and get one of these systems you will give yourself a far far better chance of getting her back.

4) Work the plan Ok, assuming you’ve decided to get a system you now have to use it. Actually starting the plan is the hardest step. In the system I used there was some great psychological tactics to help the plan along.

I had my eyes opened by the psychological tactics (bonus) section. I was quite shocked at how we are all subject to these tactics almost every day. Governments, ad agencies, employers are all using psychological tactics on a routine basis. She won’t realise you are employing psychological mind games on her. As a result you are in control of every situation.

I’m not talking hypnosis here and getting her to do your bidding, that would be plain wrong. Simple psychological mind games like inviting her for coffee regularly. Maybe just to talk. Then as you see her at ease with the situation casually invite her to lunch. You then step up to an evening meal and then eventually a proper date.

That’s one example of the psychological tactics you can use. There was a complete bonus section on these tactics in the system I used. You can use these mind games to shorten the time it takes to get your ex back easily.

There you have the 4 steps to understanding and reversing a split. If you want the easiest route to getting her back then take a look at the review on my site. Get your wife back by clicking the link.

1 Sneakily Simple Tactic To Get My Wife Back

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

If you’re like me I’m sure you are feeling like crap right about now. In fact that’s probably an understatement.

When my ex left I was totally useless. We’d been together for 6 years and it came as a shock when she decided to leave.

I’m sure like me, you thought everything was going ok. I was clearly way out on that particular one.

I resolved to get my wife back and make it work this time. No mistakes, no overlooking anything and no taking her for granted.

I called and left messages, sounding apologetic. I left texts but all they did was to drive the wedge further between us.

I gave up trying to get in touch as it was having the totally wrong effect.

I was at a loss at this point, not having a clue what to do next.

I thought the only course of action was counselling, but I thought the last thing she would do was to come along with me.

Something struck me as I was deleting the numerous spam mail in my inbox.

The subject of some of these spam messages is fairly unbelievable.

I won’t linger on spam but it dawned on me that if you can get all this stuff there may well be info on the net to help me get my ex back.

After loads of searching through crap I settled on 2 systems at about 40 bucks apiece that promised to get my wife back.

I thought one was really a let down but the other had a great section on psychological mind games, this got my interest. Even though it had a bit too much padding for my liking.

I won’t go too deep into it but I simply knew that she was coming back after I put step 1 into action. A simply unbelievable tactic.

Step one of the system had me leaving a message and thanking her and agreeing the split was right and that I had a lot of good things going on right now.

This message was supposed to raise her curiosity levels so much that she couldn’t resist calling me back. Curiosity may have killed the cat but it got my ex to call me back pretty darn quick.

Within 1 day or so she was on the phone to me wanting to know everything that was going on. She was so curious to know what was happening in my life.

I could see here that she was still interested and I felt it would be a matter of time before we were back together. Within 6 weeks of following the system she was indeed back with me.

I took my time and played it cool. I was in control and though it could have been quicker it took about six weeks to get my wife back. Though it happened, it seemed all too easy.

I Used Controvesial Psychological Tactics To Get My Wife Back

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

Some would say the little known techniques I used to get her backget my wife back are a little underhand. But not me.

If you are in this position now you have two choices, either make a plan to get her back or walk away and move on. It’s your call.

Before you decide to call it a day and move on, ask yourself is this really what you want?

Many breakups can be reversed. Even ones that look totally over. It just takes some effort and the right game plan.

I used an off the shelf - get your ex back - system that I found on the net. Yes believe it or not there is such a thing. I know I was mega sceptical.

I made a decision to try and get my wife back. I didn’t see I had anything to lose. She was already gone so it was worth a go.

In the system I bought, it had a very appealing section that covered psychological mind moves. Things that we could use on other people to coerce them to do what we wanted.

It’s not heavy hypnosis or anything like that, it’s simply a play with words that we all respond to in some way. Kinda like the way advertisers suck us in to purchase.

In fact you couldn’t even hypnotise someone to do something that their concsous mind would disagree with. So these psychological mind games are pretty safe to use.

I used a few specific psychological moves in the overall system that I used to get her back.

One trick was to leave a message on her answer machine that included info that would make her curious. The idea was to get her to call back out of curiosity without actually asking her to call back.

She called a few times after that and always I had her favorite tune playing in the background. This further linked me to her fav tune.

It was a succession of small steps after this that built up into bigger ones. First coffee, then a casual date, then a meal at a nice restaurant.

The final step was her moving back in with me. At this point it didn’t seem such a big deal to her as she’d been psychologically manipulated by all the smaller steps.

Using The Crafty Power Of Psychology To Get My Wife Back

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

You need a step by step system to get your ex back. One that is virtually foolproof.

A system that’s worked hundreds of times in the past and will work hundreds of times in the future.

It’s hard to believe that these systems even exist, let alone are for sale on the net.

There’s a lot of them but most are simply rubbish. Full of common sense crap that a 5 year old could teach.

There are a few that are worth their wieght in gold. Systems that have been put together by people who have been where you are before.

A system that works is one that is easy to follow and written by someone who has successfully followed each step and gotten the right result.

When I wanted my wife back I used one of the systems, and it worked. I’m sure it can work for you too.

Not all the system revolves around using psychological moves but the best parts do. Well, in my opinion anyway.

We are programmed to react to psychological triggers in a similar way. We can’t help doing it

Think of sports car advertising, almost almost always involving a great looking woman. They are using psychology against us as we associate that car with a good looking woman.

You can employ similar tactics to get your wife back when she phones you. Have her fav song on in the background just loud enough for her to hear.

You can try to create the smell of her fav dish if she ever comes round to yours. These psychological links have her picturing you when she smells that food or hears that music.

Leave her a voicemail message that doesn’t ask her to call back, but leaves her just curious enough that she just has to get back to you.

You can have her thinking it was her that got in touch first and wasn’t just replying to the message you left.

Weeping Like A Baby Did Not Get My Ex Wife Back - Psychological Mind Games Did

Monday, July 27th, 2009

I was wrecked when my ex wife left. It came as a shock and I was useless for a while.

I was crying like a baby for no reason. I was having a hard time at work.

I constantly tried to call and text her but it seems all I was doing was driving the wedge between us even deeper.

In hindsight this was the wrong thing to do. I should have been doing the opposite of what I was doing.

I got hold of a step by step system that claimed it would get my wife back. To say I was sceptical was an understatement.

I thought what the hell, I’ll give the system a go. I followed it’s advice and stopped trying to contact my ex.

I followed the system advice and spent a week or two getting my emotions in check. This alone was a great step for me as I felt so much better about myself.

In the system there is a section on psychological mind games and how we as humans are always open to psychological manipulation.

This is the kind of stuff I like. Although to be honest I was unaware of how poweful these psychological tactics are.

We are manipulated by these tricks on a daily basis. Mostly advertising but also our government is quite expert with these tricks.

Over many years our government has manipulated us into a position that suits them just fine.

They are still at it and they will ultimately get us into a position where we give over the majority of our salary in tax, and give it happily.

The psychological steps in the system worked on a similar line. Get my ex back by getting her to agree to small things and moving up to slightly bigger things all the time.

To start off with a small step of agreeing to meet. When she’s comfortable with this then move up to having a coffee together.

Then move up to having lunch a few times. All the time only increasing the steps bit by bit so she gets comfortable with them.

Next it’s a meal out in a restaurant and this nicely moves up to a full night out. The next step is getting her to stay over after the night out.

The final step for me was after she was comfortable in staying over it would be logical for her to move back in. Total time taken here was about 6 or 7 weeks.

If you are in a split right now & want your wife back then you could do worse than giving this system a try. It worked for me and countless others and it comes with a 2 month guarantee.There’s a more in depth review at my site.