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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… Contrary to accepted relationship advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to turn her off and send her packing.

Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, asking you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The love advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.

It’s more prevalent than ever for a real man to speak his mind and communicate openly from her heart. Open communication is a prized attribute and a turn on for most men.

Whether you’re looking for casual dating or your soul mate, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Men the first place to start is to know what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What’s important to you? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is she funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is she interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you have an idea about what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? What are the elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Ms. Right.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m proposing that you remain in the inquiry of ‘what if he’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Become like the person you want to meet. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

4. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.

When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.

Real Relationship Solutions for Real People

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …

Finding love is doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in a haystack.
Admitedly, it can feel that way, I can assure you that you can find the perfect mate for you if you follow these steps.
The values and attributes you want in your ideal mate will determine what actions you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three critical steps to relationship attraction. Attraction or chemistry is not
about looking good, having the perfect come on lines, or being smoothe.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you know what you want, play with the feeling of how it feels to already have what you want, and let go of the details on when it will happen, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.

Here’s further explanation of what I mean.

1. Know what you want.
The universe is made up of energy which is moldable. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Make a list of the qualities and values you desire in your ideal mate.

2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …

3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go and go with the flow, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Feeling good, expectant and happy releases resistance. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.

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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

Finding Love After 40 doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in the haystack. For many women finding love can seem like the last issue they want to confront. From my practical experience in relationship coaching, I work with women in their 30’s all the way to women in their 70’s and they learn what they need to do to alter their thinking about what’s possible in love and partnership for them.

Finding your the perfect mate is not about how many people you date. Finding true love is not about how many men you have to date before you can find Mr. Right. It’s also not about being less particular and settling for less than all the qualities you truly want for yourself in your ideal love relationship.

In my world, you CAN have it all. You deserve to have it all. That’s what you learn in relationship coaching classes. The belief that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get your prince is an outworn myth. Limiting beliefs and feeling like you’re too old to find love again are all part of outmoded opinions taught to us by our culture. Fortunately, leading edge science and quantum physics are teaching us that our thoughts create our reality. As a relationship coach, my passion in life is to help you find out how.

Before you can create your desired relationship reality, you need to know what the blind spots have been in your belief system. Your experiences will always follow your expectations. If that’s so - and it is - then you want to know what’s in the way of you getting your expectations met. Said in another way, you want to get clear of what has been in the way (limiting beliefs) of you having the love you desire and deserve.

Let’s look at a couple strong cultural influences that inhibit us from having our relationship desires met.

1. The Influence of Others

Our families, friends and the media carry a lot of influence. If you’re constantly looking outside to see what’s possible for your in relationships, you’ll be comparing yourself to someone else’s standards. That rarely works for long term relationship happiness.

2. Habits of Thought or Beliefs

Your beliefs, like the air your breathe are rarely questioned. At one time it was TRUE that the earth was flat. Your thoughts, beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you in relationship will only keep the status quo in place. If you’d like to shift that, enroll in relationship coaching courses and learn to break through your own limitations.

In some cases, it’s actually easier to find love after 40. I manifested to love of my dreams in my late forty’s after two divorces and several relationship failures. When I got clear of what my limiting beliefs were, the love of my life entered in a very short time. I know you can create the love of your dreams, I did it and you can too.