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Marriage Advice On Feminine Energy

Sunday, August 30th, 2009

Is there such a thing as the power of the feminine?  Of course.  As we shall discover, there is a lot of power that women have in the area of relationships.  Women have intimacy skills that in general men do not.  Get Relationship Help here.

Women have a couple of advantages when it comes to relationships.  They are connected to feminine energy, which is about affinity, closeness, relationship.  And, girls are raised much differently than boys, which tells us a lot.

When you were a young girl, you played with dolls and you played house and you played at imaginary tea parties.  The fact that most all women play with dolls (figurines, stuffed animals, etc.) as young girls is no trivial matter.  Around the world, in almost every culture, girls play with dolls in some form.

What does it matter that you play with dolls?  Well, playing with dolls is playing at relationship.  It is playing and practicing nurturing and empathy and communication skills. 

This is a vital gender distinction.  Boys are playing with toy guns.  Girls are playing at nurturing and connection and relationship.  These are high feminine energies. You can get more relationship advice here.

Also, girls have imaginary tea parties.  They play house.  These games are also examples of the High Feminine moving through them.  At a tea party what do girls do?

They are communicating and connecting!  Nesting, cooperating, nurturing, caring and bonding through communication are high feminine qualities.  You grew up with them.  You played at them when you were a child.  As a young girl, you developed and practiced these skills.  Boys, in general, do not.

The lesson right in front of us is that women have a lot of relationship skills.  If you are a woman, use your innate knowledge.  Train your mate to connect and bond and nurture.  If you are a man, understand that women know a lot about relationships that you may not.  Learn from them.  You will both benefit.  You can get more How To Get Help For Love Skills here.

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How to Find and Keep Love

Saturday, July 18th, 2009

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …

I’m frequently asked how to find love when there’s been so much failure in the past. I thought I’d share some of the frequently asked questions and the Universal Law of Attraction model answer.

1. I’m just about to give up on love. I’m in my mid-40’s. If I haven’t met a good one by now, will it ever happen?

If you can desire it, you can achieve it. Find out what belief you have, what story you’re telling yourself that’s not true and make it your business to shift that belief.

Consider the Universe is a gigantic intention fulfillment machine. When you ask, and it’s not coming, you have a dominant belief or vibration about it being difficult. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. When you find out what that belief is, do whatever it takes to soothe yourself about it. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How can I know that I’m in the allowing mode? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. Build your belief muscles by pretending how wonderful it will be when your love shows up. Practice what it feels like to be in love. One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Practice frequently. It takes repetition to learn a new habit.

By the feeling state, I mean engaging all of the senses by imagining what it will be like when … … the love of your life comes to stay … you plan a surprise gourmet picnic for him … you hold hands and tell jokes … you play games in the car on a long ride etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

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How To Find Love with Your Ideal Partner

Monday, July 13th, 2009

Practical Relationship Advice

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

Looking for and finding love doesn’t have to be the challenging burden most people think it is.
Though it may seem that way at times, I can assure you that you can find the perfect mate for you if you follow these steps.
The values and attributes you want in your ideal mate will determine what approach you take to find him or her.
Whether you want ease without commitment or deep intimacy, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three critical steps to relationship attraction. Attraction or chemistry is not
about how attractive you look, having the perfect come on lines, or making the right moves.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you know what you want, play with the feeling of how it feels to already have what you want, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.

Let me explain these steps more clearly.

1. Know what you want.
The universe is made up of energy which is moldable. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Make a list of the qualities and values you desire in your ideal mate.

2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …

3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go of how and when, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Your only job is to feel good all the way to having him or her show up. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.

Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass

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What Every Man Needs to Know About Finding Love

Monday, July 13th, 2009

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… Contrary to accepted love advice that’s out there on the internet, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to turn him off and have him looking for the door.

Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that make you feel comfortable? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.

It’s more commonplace these days for a real man to express his feelings and communicate openly from his heart. The ability to openly communicate is a valuable trait and a turn on for most women.

Whether you’re looking for casual dating or your life partner, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Relationship Advice for Women the first place to start is to know what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What’s important to you? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet him. Is she funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is she interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Ms. Right.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you’d be surprised on how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you stay curious about ‘what if he’s even better than I can imagine?’ It’s possible to get even more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

4. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which hinders your magnetic attraction.

When you’re looking, it’s much easier to find them when you are really clear on you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.

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4 Little Known Secrets For Women About Relationships

Friday, July 3rd, 2009

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… Contrary to accepted relationship advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to turn her off and send her packing.

Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, asking you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The love advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.

It’s more prevalent than ever for a real man to speak his mind and communicate openly from her heart. Open communication is a prized attribute and a turn on for most men.

Whether you’re looking for casual dating or your soul mate, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Men the first place to start is to know what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What’s important to you? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is she funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is she interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you have an idea about what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? What are the elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Ms. Right.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m proposing that you remain in the inquiry of ‘what if he’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Become like the person you want to meet. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

4. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.

When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.

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Love After Breakup

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009

Real Relationship Solutions for Real People

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …

Finding love is doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in a haystack.
Admitedly, it can feel that way, I can assure you that you can find the perfect mate for you if you follow these steps.
The values and attributes you want in your ideal mate will determine what actions you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three critical steps to relationship attraction. Attraction or chemistry is not
about looking good, having the perfect come on lines, or being smoothe.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you know what you want, play with the feeling of how it feels to already have what you want, and let go of the details on when it will happen, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.

Here’s further explanation of what I mean.

1. Know what you want.
The universe is made up of energy which is moldable. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Make a list of the qualities and values you desire in your ideal mate.

2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …

3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go and go with the flow, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Feeling good, expectant and happy releases resistance. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.

Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass

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How to Find The Perfect Mate, Even After a Difficult Divorce

Saturday, June 20th, 2009

Real Relationship Solutions for Real People

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… …

Finding love is doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in a haystack.
Admitedly, it can feel that way, I can assure you that you can find your ideal partner if you follow these steps.
What you want in your ideal partnership relationship will determine what approach you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or deep intimacy, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three critical steps to relationship attraction. Attraction or chemistry is not
about how attractive you look, having the perfect come on lines, or being smoothe.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you get clear on exactly what you want, exude the essence of what it feels like to already have it, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.

Here’s further explanation of what I mean.

1. Know what you want.
We now know that everything is energy. Physics has taught us that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. You can be clear about what you want and get it. Go for it and make a comprehensive list of what you want.

2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …

3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go and go with the flow, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Your only job is to feel good all the way to having him or her show up. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.

Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass

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The 5 Fastest Ways to Wake Up Your Relationship

Saturday, June 20th, 2009

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

If you’re wondering where the affection and passion have gone from your intimate relationship, and you’d like it back, I’ve got some very good news for you. Financial pressures, job stress, household duties and busy schedules are not going to go away.

You’ve gotten in the habit of putting them all before your relationship needs. How did all that happen? Gradually and over a period of time, no doubt. Are you ready for some love advice that will make the difference? Well if you think that you’ll have to wait until the kids are all grown up and out of the house for you to return to the loving intimacy you once enjoyed, think again.

You can have what you want and you don’t even necessarily have to have your mate on board 100%. By being who you want to be, I’ll show you how you can influence your partner, draw the best out of him or her and enhance your love relationship today.

1. Appreciate

This is simple yet powerful. If you will find as many opportunities as you possibly can to appreciate what your partner does, you’ll find him or her responding very quickly for more positive attention and start offering it back. Appreciation is one of the highest emotional states. It’s right up there with love. Even if you find yourself wanting to find fault, instead start finding reasons to praise. If he doesn’t do the chores you want, start making lists in your head (or better on paper) of what you would love him to do - as if he’s already in the habit of doing it. You’ll see fast shifts if you do this practice as little and 7 days.

2. Acknowledge

Acknowledgment is a powerful tool. When you acknowledge someone, you are in a deep listening mode. I’m suggesting that you listen deeply free from judgment. Free yourself of the voice in your head that has the answer, a better suggestion or solution to whatever he or she is talking about. Just listen. And acknowledge that you heard what he or she said. Your partner will feel very validated and valued. A great gift of deep intimacy.

3. Affection

Remember the little things. A loving smile, little love notes on the bathroom mirror. Dry erase markers work well on mirrors and come off very easily. Let her know how much you love sharing life with her. Stroke his arm the way you used to just because. A kiss on the cheek, just because.

4. Seeing Eye-to-Eye

I love this one because it cuts right down to the core. Spend 2-3 minutes looking into each other’s eyes without speaking. Just be with each other deeply, fully present. You will experience such love for your partner. This kind of love and appreciation goes beyond words. Your hearts meet. You remember why you fell in love. You experience the depth of what your love has grown into.

5. Allow

Allow your judgments to cease. Allowing is letting it be. Letting things be just as they are. There’s a lot of release from just letting go or allowing. Perhaps you’ve heard the saying “Let Go and Let God.” This is the perfect stance to be in. There is an underlying perfection to your relationship exactly as it is right now. When you allow, you have access to all of that perfection.

Use as many of these tips and tools as you can. They’re all powerful. They all have the potential to ignite deeper intimacy and love between you and your partner. You may have to put your ego aside. I hope you enjoy these tools and many years of love and laughter in partnership.

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Finding Love in Mid-Life

Saturday, June 20th, 2009

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

Finding Love After 40 doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in the haystack. For many women finding love can seem like the last issue they want to confront. From my practical experience in relationship coaching, I work with women in their 30’s all the way to women in their 70’s and they learn what they need to do to alter their thinking about what’s possible in love and partnership for them.

Finding your the perfect mate is not about how many people you date. Finding true love is not about how many men you have to date before you can find Mr. Right. It’s also not about being less particular and settling for less than all the qualities you truly want for yourself in your ideal love relationship.

In my world, you CAN have it all. You deserve to have it all. That’s what you learn in relationship coaching classes. The belief that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get your prince is an outworn myth. Limiting beliefs and feeling like you’re too old to find love again are all part of outmoded opinions taught to us by our culture. Fortunately, leading edge science and quantum physics are teaching us that our thoughts create our reality. As a relationship coach, my passion in life is to help you find out how.

Before you can create your desired relationship reality, you need to know what the blind spots have been in your belief system. Your experiences will always follow your expectations. If that’s so - and it is - then you want to know what’s in the way of you getting your expectations met. Said in another way, you want to get clear of what has been in the way (limiting beliefs) of you having the love you desire and deserve.

Let’s look at a couple strong cultural influences that inhibit us from having our relationship desires met.

1. The Influence of Others

Our families, friends and the media carry a lot of influence. If you’re constantly looking outside to see what’s possible for your in relationships, you’ll be comparing yourself to someone else’s standards. That rarely works for long term relationship happiness.

2. Habits of Thought or Beliefs

Your beliefs, like the air your breathe are rarely questioned. At one time it was TRUE that the earth was flat. Your thoughts, beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you in relationship will only keep the status quo in place. If you’d like to shift that, enroll in relationship coaching courses and learn to break through your own limitations.

In some cases, it’s actually easier to find love after 40. I manifested to love of my dreams in my late forty’s after two divorces and several relationship failures. When I got clear of what my limiting beliefs were, the love of my life entered in a very short time. I know you can create the love of your dreams, I did it and you can too.

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Making Up With Ex After Infidelity

Friday, May 29th, 2009

Infidelity is the cause of many relationship break ups.  The reason is obvious.  When one partner cheats, the other will usually feel like “I can’t trust you ever again.”

This is a normal feeling after cheating occurs.  That’s because trust is such an essential part of a close, true love.  When it gets broken, we usually feel very strongly that there is no way to get it back.  Even if there are a lot of things we do/did like about our mate, after cheating occurs we don’t feel how we could ever be happy with them after a betrayal like that.  You can learn more about making up with your ex girlfriend after infidelity here.

For this reason trust is one of the largest problems in break ups.  Your ex is wondering if they can ever truly trust you not to cheat on them again.  Why get back together if there is just going to be more cheating?  So when break ups happen due to cheating, on of the big issue on your ex’s mind is

Can I ever feel that I can trust you after this?

Clearly, if they split with you because of a problem issue like infidelity, they need to know In Advance of letting you ocme back that you won’t hurt them that way again, you won’t keep doing what you did.

The emotion of broken trust/betrayal is one of the toughest feelings for an ex lover to get over.  We all believe that trust takes a long time to build.  So when it’s broken, we usually believe it is unfixable, correct?

You must understand the trust issue to see how you can get back together with your ex.  If you can’t deal with the feelings of betrayal and broken trust and the complete emotional distance that it causes, you won’t be able to get back together.  And, if you do somehow luck out and they give you another chance, it won’t last, because without trust there can’t be the feeling of closeness and intimacy we all really want.

How might you deal with your ex’s lack of trust?  It’s a complex answer, but one thing that often happens after cheating is we try to avoid the blame.  We try to say it wasn’t our fault.  We say “I drank too much,” or “You were mean to me!”  When a relationship buster like infidelity has happened, we will almost naturally try to avoid taking the blame. 

If you give those types of excuses to your ex, they will often think even worse of you and any chances of getting back together.  When you drink again will you cheat again?  If they are cold or mean to you in a month, will you use it as an excuse to cheat again?  So what you can do instead is to be an adult and to accept responibility.  Take full blame.  Do not give weak excuses to your mate.  You can learn a full system for resolving relationship conflict here.

You can own up to it by saying something along the lines of “I cheated on you and betrayed you.  I apologize and I I’m sure I caused you to feel like you can’t ever trust me again…”

That is a powerful start to repairing the trust.  If you got cheated on hearing that can help you to begin to deal with the infidelity.  Its like when you have kids and they screw up and you catch them and they try to lie or blame someone else it makes you much angrier.  But if they own up to it you can forgive them much more easily.

There are many other steps that need to be followed before you can truly begin to repair the trust, but this is a very big initial step!  Go here for a free course on How To Get Relationship Advice.

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